Thursday, March 28, 2013

Has Facebook Killed Love?

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Thanks to texting and social network sites it has become a lot easier to get to know someone…or has it?

 

Before Facebook or texting was a thing, people would write letters to each other or talk for hours on the phone. Or, even better, they would meet in person and talk about their day. Okay, so I know people still do these but let’s be honest: it isn’t as common as it once was.

Let’s say you meet someone you grow to like. And I mean like like. You used to exchange addresses or phone numbers and you would call each other and talk or write letters to each other. But today you find their profile on Facebook and send them a friend request and exchange cell numbers and text. I’m sorry to say but not a lot of relationships will work out if that’s how you’re going about doing it. They won’t last; eventually the two of you will drift apart sending one text once every week instead of every day until it trickles down to nothing. I’ve seen this happen enough times to know that trying to peruse a relationship based off of texting and Facebook is not easy. I’m not saying it’s impossible, though. But if you really are interested in this person, call them or maybe write them a letter. Show them that you are genuinely interested in them and want to get to know them better. Through Facebook, all you know about the person is what they want you to see.

Through Facebook and texting, relationships are rushed. Everything goes so much faster. There isn’t the long wait for their response to your letter or the anticipation of a phone all. Everything is sped up so we don’t have to wait anymore. You can send someone a text and they get it almost instantly. Conversation goes faster and before long, you’ve run out of things to say. Then what happens when you actually get together? What is there to talk about?

My friends and I were actually talking about this one time and we said that today, people will text or post whatever is on their mind. Let’s say you just saw a cat doing a back flip. You whip out your phone and immediately tell everyone in your contact list. Why don’t you just wait until you see your friends at school to tell them? That way face-to-face conversations aren’t awkward…which, unfortunately, they are thanks to texting and Facebook and other instant-messaging systems.
 
Facebook is fine for beginning a relationship. You get to see what they've done through the pictures they post, what they're thinking through their status updates but you don't get to know the real them until you sit down with them and talk to them or call them. Don't let a machine define what love is for you; it's up to you to find out what it is for yourself.
 
~Skooogster(:

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